Are you experiencing challenges in a relationship that is important to you? Perhaps it's your relationship with your spouse, or a child, a coworker, your boss...or even yourself. If so, let me share with you one incredible - and simple - way to create transformation in that relationship starting right NOW:
Deliberately choose what you focus your attention on.
What you choose to place your attention on is what you give life to. What you choose to focus on is what is determining the quality of your relationships and life right now. If you focus your attention on what you think is wrong with your boss, for example, then you are bound to be frustrated and discouraged when relating to your boss. It will be an unsatisfying relationship.
What do you find yourself giving your attention to when you are relating to your boss? What is that doing to you emotionally, physically, and mentally? What would be possible for you (and your boss) if you deliberately chose to focus on something more positive and life-enriching?
If you want to transform your relationship with your boss (or anyone), then work on deliberately shifting your attention...focusing on what you respect or appreciate or value about the person you are relating to. Instead of focusing on who you think they should be in the relationship, deliberately focus your attention on who you really want to be in the relationship...and step forward as that person!
Deliberately choosing your focus of attention takes practice...but it is one practice that when done regularly will literally transform your relationships and the quality of your life.
What are focusing your attention on?
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
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