Lighten Your Load

by Life and Wellness Coach, Denver Hudson

At RelationshipFitnessOnline.com, we focus on creating as a way of life. Creating optimal wellness. Creating dynamic relationships. Creating personal excellence. And one of the things I have noticed, not only in my own life, but in the life of my clients is the challenge of creating when we are weighted down with the extra "stuff" of life.

To be effective at creating a thriving business and life, it's important to lighten the load. Here are a couple of suggestions on how to do that:

Simplify Externally and Internally

Typically, we are encouraged to simplify our life externally. Get rid of the clutter. Delegate. File your papers. And so on. And those are great suggestions and something you might want to look at doing.

But simplifying your life internally is more important. What does internal simplifying look like? To simplify internally means to get clear - real clear - on what is most important to you and what you want to create in your business and life. When you know what you really want (stated in a compelling vision) and what is most important to you (your personal values), you naturally begin to simplify your life. The "nonessentials" begin to fall away! You begin to lighten your load!

As a Life and Wellness Coach, this is one of the things that I help individuals to do: to simplify their life, create a compelling vision, and discover and live their personal values.

Set Them Free

Another great way to lighten your load is to use the phrase "I Set You Free." This is practicing the power of acceptance and release as you engage everyday reality. Acceptance is to allow things and people to be what they already are, so you can be more of who you are!

It's difficult - if not impossible - to create what you really want in life, and to honor what is most important to you, if you're always trying to fix or avoid the problems of other people or things. When you set them free to be where they already are and who they already are, you are then free to create and influence in powerful ways! You will then notice things changing naturally and sometimes effortlessly.

So, beginning today, try on the phrase, "I set you free." You can say this mentally when you are told "no" by a client. "Client, I set you free to say no." Now you are in a position to better serve them! You can say this mentally to your spouse when they wake up in a bad mood. "Honey, I set you free to be in a bad mood." Now you are free to love them and support them (and don't be surprised if their mood changes for the better!) You can say this to your emotions when they get in the way: "Anger, I set you free."

Once you set something or someone free, then you are free to make wise choices, ones that move you in the direction of what you want to create! You are then free to express what is most important to you! You are free to make a difference in our world!

This week, try out these suggestions: (1) Simplify your life both externally - and more importantly - internally, and (2) set the people and things in your life free, so you are free to create and express the things that matter the most to you.

Embracing Failure on the Way to Success

There's a great saying that goes something like this: "We fail our way to success." There's truth in that, as you and I both could share examples of how we have failed and learned some great things from it.

Have you noticed how we resist failure? Sure, we don't want to fail, but have you noticed how we RESIST it? We incorporate all kinds of interesting ways to avoid the very situations that could teach us just what we need to learn - or perhaps exactly what we have asked to learn. I believe that when we run from what we typically call failure, or work hard at avoiding it, then we are actually running from life and what it has to teach us.

What would happen in our lives if we made the choice to begin embracing failures along the way instead of resisting them or fighting like mad to avoid them? Just imagine all that we might learn and what we might accomplish!

Suppose further that we just did away with the whole idea of failure, period. What if "success" and "failure" were nothing more than an idea in our head - a story that we entertain, or perhaps entertains us? Suppose that we just let those ideas and stories go? What new possibilities would emerge in our lives then?

As a Life and Wellness Coach, one of the things that often comes out during coach is what people define as success. This is a great exercise. To spend a few minutes, hours, or perhaps months figuring out exactly what "success" means to you. Then, to take equal time to consider what "failure" means to you. And - as a final step - consider giving up both of those stories ("success" and "failure") and see what possibilities might emerge beyond them!

And while you're on your journey, I invite you to consider working with me personally as a participant in The Relationship Fitness Coaching Program. Isn't it time to feel better, relate better, and live better?

Enjoy the gift of this moment...

The Beauty of Life - Witness It!

First, Happy New Year to all of you! Personally, I'm looking forward to a wonderful year of health, happiness, and prosperity. And I am looking forward to meeting many of you who are currently reading this entry.

Second, I want to recommend a beautiful resource that I purchased over the holiday break. It's incredibly inspiring and has given me an even deeper appreciation for life and the beauty of this planet we call Earth. It's a DVD published by http://www.consciousone.com called "I AM ONE," the ConsciousOne DVD. You can visit their website and see a clip from the DVD. The first sequence I watched included scenes of our earth from outer space. It was so moving I found myself in tears. The beauty of this planet and the life we have is incredible. I hope you'll purchase a copy and allow it to inspire, calm, and teach you.

Enjoy the gift of this moment.