One of the things that fascinates me about being a teacher and coach is how people think I have some "perfect" life. I simply tell people that my life is not "perfect" (meaning without setbacks, hardships, or "down" days), but what I do have are the tools to know how to navigate through those moments, while remaining true to myself and my aspirations.
As coaching becomes more known, now entering the Hollywood scene, for example, people are going to be getting all kinds of ideas about what coaching is and isn't. I will tell you, coaching is not some magical cure to the reality of daily existence. No program, service, or method is going to change the nature of existence. But working with a coach can help you to learn how to navigate daily life more effectively, helping you to create the space and the skills to live what truly matters to you, right in the middle of the daily grind.
I recently heard Jerry Stocking comment that peoples' idea of heaven is having the same response to everything. Maybe that response is a "positive" response, a "loving" response, a "blissful" response. But to me, that idea of heaven just isn't realistic - and it would actually rob you of the joy of existence. Just to let you know, coaching isn't about that - at least not to me. It's about - among other things - helping people to fully embrace life - all of it - because all of it has something of value for us. All of it. And if we refuse to embrace it, we refuse to learn from it. In fact, I think we're probably learning only about half to 3/4 of what we could be learning, simply because we refuse to embrace life as it is.
My work as a coach is not to help people escape the realities of existence (as if I could do that anyway). Like somehow I'm going to help my clients to be free of all the challenges of life. I've used the term "Stress-Free" before, which doesn't mean that you will be free of stress. It means that you will become more and more free of it's harmful effects - as much as is possible for you - when you learn how to USE stress in a positive way... It means that you are going to FREE yourself of doing battle with stress, turn and learn from it, and let that which is a normal part of life teach you instead of control you!
Stress reveals openings for new possibilities in your life. If you're stressed at work - congratulations! Your stress is telling you that there is a new possibility amid your situation. Can you see it? Are you looking for it? Why not use what is as a catalyst to what could be?
As coaching becomes more known, now entering the Hollywood scene, for example, people are going to be getting all kinds of ideas about what coaching is and isn't. I will tell you, coaching is not some magical cure to the reality of daily existence. No program, service, or method is going to change the nature of existence. But working with a coach can help you to learn how to navigate daily life more effectively, helping you to create the space and the skills to live what truly matters to you, right in the middle of the daily grind.
I recently heard Jerry Stocking comment that peoples' idea of heaven is having the same response to everything. Maybe that response is a "positive" response, a "loving" response, a "blissful" response. But to me, that idea of heaven just isn't realistic - and it would actually rob you of the joy of existence. Just to let you know, coaching isn't about that - at least not to me. It's about - among other things - helping people to fully embrace life - all of it - because all of it has something of value for us. All of it. And if we refuse to embrace it, we refuse to learn from it. In fact, I think we're probably learning only about half to 3/4 of what we could be learning, simply because we refuse to embrace life as it is.
My work as a coach is not to help people escape the realities of existence (as if I could do that anyway). Like somehow I'm going to help my clients to be free of all the challenges of life. I've used the term "Stress-Free" before, which doesn't mean that you will be free of stress. It means that you will become more and more free of it's harmful effects - as much as is possible for you - when you learn how to USE stress in a positive way... It means that you are going to FREE yourself of doing battle with stress, turn and learn from it, and let that which is a normal part of life teach you instead of control you!
Stress reveals openings for new possibilities in your life. If you're stressed at work - congratulations! Your stress is telling you that there is a new possibility amid your situation. Can you see it? Are you looking for it? Why not use what is as a catalyst to what could be?
Just so you know, Life Coaching is not driven by "pie-in-the-sky" platitudes and feel good sayings - it's about helping you to live your everyday life, and perform your everyday work, more effectively. With more meaning. With more joy. And with greater authenticity. Even though there will still be some rough times.
This day brings with it many new possibilities. Embrace all of life today. Listen. And you will see them - those possibilities peaking through - right in the middle of where you are. Then choose to bring them to life! Perhaps that is the real heaven on earth.
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