"Relationship Fitness" and Midlife

My services are targeted primarily to people who are in midlife. That is such a dynamic time of life, isn't it? The midlife passage begins for most at around the age of 38. This is a time when we begin to ask new questions. It's a time when we begin to realize that what carried us so successfully through the first half of life just isn't going to carry us through the challenges of the second half. For many, the midlife years are an invitation from Greatness to step more fully into the quest to discover their own truth - and to live it fully.

What are the midlife years inviting you into?

When I was building my website, I spent a considerable time thinking about what to call it. I chose "Relationship Fitness Online" because my work as a Transformational Life and Wellness Coach is really about helping individuals in midlife to transform how they are relating in the various relationships of their life.

Consider. You have a relationship with many things in life.

A relationship with your body.
A relationship with your thoughts, feelings, and moods.
A relationship with other people.
A relationship with events that occur.
A relationship with your past and future.
A relationship with a culture.
A relationship with God.
And so on...

Relationship Fitness is all about making these various relationships in your life optimally healthy. And this involves becoming masterful at relating. The quality of your relationships is - right now - determining the quality of your life and your future.

So, how do we improve the quality of our relationships? To dramatically improve the relationships in your life requires that you become masterful at being an Observer. Once you can observe something, you are in a relationship with it.

For example, let's say that a person is experiencing a great deal of problems in their life because they are not aware of what is going on for them emotionally. As a coach, I would work with this person in designing some self-observation exercises where they would begin to observe what they are feeling as they move through the day. Once they can observe a feeling, they can decide how they will relate to it. As they become more mindful of their own emotions, they can choose to create a healthy relationship (improve their "Relationship Fitness") with those emotions. Now, instead of being ruled by their emotions, they can choose how they will relate to them and manage them. This will in turn open up many new possibilities for the client.

The interesting thing about midlife is that the state of health of our relationships really begins to reveal itself. It's as if Life is saying, "It's time to get serious about who you are - and how you are relating."

If you're in midlife and facing challenges in your relationships, feel free to give me a call at 812-299-0214. I'd enjoy the opportunity to explore working with you in creating relationships that are optimally healthy and making the second half of your life truly amazing!

-Denver